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Feeling Overwhelmed.....

August 11th, 2009 at 03:19 am

I was thisclose to crying at work today. I had some unexpected car trouble, and the prospect of digging deep into my super small amount of savings was a bit much to deal with. I was already planning on going into my savings to pay for some much needed standard maintenance things for my car, and now to hear I may need to spend a few hundred dollars more, well, it really made me a bit sad.

And it didn't help that I had some much needed chores to do, and having a car that isn't working doesn't make it easy to wash clothes and whatnot. Sigh. So, today I felt I looked a little disheveled. Tomorrow, I will get up very early and clean. I probably need my sleep, but clean clothes are super important. I am just hoping my car can hold out until I can get her fixed, and I hope it isn't too expensive.

I told my bf that I am going to try and get a part-time job in addition to my full-time job. I don't think he liked it very much. But I think it is because he wants to help me with bills, and he may take my wanting to get a 2nd job as something where I am not depending on him. That isn't the case. I just want to have more money so I can pay for things like car repairs, etc., and not have to stress him out about needing money.

On a good note, my cooking is getting so much better!! I made some chicken breasts and they were sooo yummy and moist! I also made a new rice recipe, and I think my bf loved it...and all it had was chopped cilantro, salt, and lime! A nice light flavor!

My relative wants to give me money for gas when I visit her. While I could definitely use it, I am not sure if I want to do that. My sis also told me to ask her if I need any help with money. It is weird because I could ask for help, but I know she works really hard and I make more money than she does, so I don't feel it would be right to ask her for money.

I know that if I just keep on keeping on, things will be ok. It is just getting through the rough economy right now that is tripping me out. I have even considered borrowing from my 401k, but I want to save that as a last resort.

I am just trying not to stress too much.

4 Responses to “Feeling Overwhelmed.....”

  1. Apprentice Bliss Hunter Says:
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    Try not to let the economic doom and gloom merchants scare you too much !!

    I hope you feel less stressed soon.... how about scheduling a day of low-cost pampering... maybe bf might give you a massage ? (I love massages !)

  2. whitestripe Says:
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    it is very hard to ask for help when you need it; i flat out refuse to ask for anything from my parents, for two reasons: my mum has less than i do and is irresponsible with what she has, and i always had to ask my dad for everything when i was younger.

    that being said, i have recognised the importance in accepting help when it is offered. it is very hard for me to do but if it helps when i am desperate, i now take it. i would do the same for the people that help me, and i have.

  3. Mrs Says:
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    ((hugs)) I hope you feel better today. A good night's sleep can make a world of difference. And I second Bliss's suggestion of low-cost pampering.

    If someone is offering you help, sometimes you should smile, accept and say "thank you". My pride has prevented me from doing that many times and only now at 40 can I do it graciously (when I feel comfortable). Sometimes people who make less are better money managers and a small amount going out won't impact them as much as you think (speaking to your sister's offer).

    Just hang in there. Things will get better. And a small savings account is better than nothing when it comes to defraying the cost of emergencies.

  4. North Georgia Gal Says:
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    I completely understand! I have been there many times since I started this financial journey! I relied on my family way too much and now that I have started this journey, I hate to ask them! I have considered pawning stuff just to get ahead! At least you had some money saved to ease the burden of your car and didn't have to come up with the whole thing! As long as you are being financially responsible with your money and trying to improve your situation, don't stress too much about accepting help from your family. It sounds like you are trying to do that.

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