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Trying to keep it together....don't know what to do

September 11th, 2009 at 05:43 am

So, I thought I was getting over the drama over the weekend and trying to not have anxiety regarding the people that took my debit card and ssn information.

I had received confirmation of a fraud alert I put on my credit report, and I had begun the process of informing the police of the situation and SSA of the event.

Well, today I get another alert about potential fraudulent activity---which baffles me because the card has been discontinued and a new one is being sent to me. I call the bank and then I find out that someone kept calling them trying to pretend they are me and that I lost my card so they can get a new card mailed to them. They kept hanging up once verification information was asked of them.

I am soooo upset. Why is this person or persons doing this? They didn't get any money the first time, so why continue?!?!

It messes with how I think about things because now I am feeling really suspicious. I live in a good building, but, eh, there have been problems with people opening packages I had. So, I do wonder if maybe a piece of mail was left outside my mailbox and someone took it?

I have always had alerts on my cards, I monitor my credit, I check for people looking over my shoulder when I am using my debit card, etc. This type of stuff just makes me more anxious and nervous and to be very honest, afraid. It makes me very afraid and scared. Is someone going to try and get into my accounts? Why are these people bothering me?

I am feeling really stressed out right now, my body is stressed so right now I am feeling a bit of pain, but I get the feeling it is just things tightening up due to stress. I just feel like I am going to break down. I mean, I don't think I will, but this is just really messed up and I am trying to hold everything together and I am not feeling very strong right now.

9 Responses to “Trying to keep it together....don't know what to do”

  1. whitestripe Says:
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    oh dear you poor thing. it is horrible when these things happen. try and relax, you have done all you can and it is in the hands of authorities to deal with it. have a nice hot bath or something Smile

  2. Apprentice Bliss Hunter Says:
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    Be strong ! I second the notion of having a nice bath ! Don't worry the Bank is aware of the fraudster so you won't lose anything... yeah... but what horrible people they are (the fraudsters).

  3. Broken Arrow Says:
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    Sorry to hear that. Hope things get better soon.

  4. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    At least the CC issuer is properly catching and noting it. I wonder if they were able to tell you where the request came from. If it was made by phone, then they probably at least know the area code, and probably the entire phone number. If made by computer, might they have an ISP?..Peculiar that this person has your SSN, too....If you are really physically tense, I hope you have a way to address that. That can feed on itself, just getting worse and worse.

  5. monkeymama Says:
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    That does really suck. I had my identity stolen, but it appears they got bored with it after a day. I didn't know that at the time, and was anxious about it for a while. So I can't imagine how I would feel knowing they were still trying to defraud me further.

    All that being said, it really is out of your hands. You've got to be a little extra vigilant, but don't spend too much time worrying about that which you can't do anything about. (Easier said than done - but try to find something to get your mind off of it!)

  6. monkeymama Says:
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    In reply to Joan, everyone (banks, police) could care less about tracking down the ID thieves, from my experience. I am not sure there is a lot she can do. Which sucks, as these people seem too stupid to give up. Or smart enough to know that no one else gives a damn.

  7. Jerry Says:
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    That is truly shocking to me... that they steal the cards is bad enough, but I guess it leads to a sign of the times. Calling the bank and asking them about something they stole themselves is brazen and crazy, but at least you have the insurance that they don't know your private confirmation information! Scary, indeed. I hope this blows over soon!
    Jerry

  8. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    Yeah, no one is going to pursue the thief, but I thought the CC rep might be able to look at the calls records and tell our blogger where the call came from. It would actually be good to find out it was coming from some distant state--meaning it was most likely a stranger, not someone near her with access to even more info. I was hoping it might help her put it out of mind and not feel so tense and threatened.

  9. lizajane Says:
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    Oh, that sounds like an awful mess! I'm sorry this is happening to you.

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