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I Just want to be pretty

September 23rd, 2009 at 09:47 am

This thought popped into my head, and I thought I would roll with it...

I know pretty people have problems, too. And yet, as probably incorrect as it seems, I really feel like if my appearance was more of how I looked about 5 years ago, I think I would feel a bit stronger about the whole situation. I would be able to wear my cute skirts and funky (meaning hip!) shoes, have an iced coffee, and not trip about being on a tight budget.

I think the appearance issue is just another added stressor---not to mention that your appearance does impact your hiring ability (for the part-time jobs I am looking into). And my appearance or health makes certain jobs (one where I am on my feet constantly), a bit more tiring than for an average and normal person.

Yeah, there is this little naive and dreamer part of me that really feels like if I were able to wear the clothes I want (not expensive ones, just ones in my style preference), and be able to take the casual kind of strolls I like, then I would be able to be a bit less stressed about the whole situation. Right now, I am in clothes I don't really like cause they make me look kind of crappy, and then that in turn affects how people view me, and I am feeling uncomfortable often when I try to go for the little strolls.

Right now I would love to be able to wear a pretty dress, sit in a cafe, and be able to just relax and write out my cares and thoughts......

6 Responses to “I Just want to be pretty”

  1. mrs. Says:

    Can you accessorize with any items you already have? Sometimes a splash of color can spruce up a tired outfit. Trust me, I was just thinking about my own wardrobe - I'm 40 - (YIKES) and I am somewhere past cute little leggins and tunics, but not quite into the elastic waistband polyester pants and appliqued shirts.

  2. miclason Says:

    I'm going to quote Bon Jovi> "If you could see yourself the way that others do, you'd wish you were as beautiful as you!"

    Having said that, it is true, you project the way you feel... hmmmm... can you pack some home made coffee with a bit of cinnamon and go drink it someplace pretty? (like a park or terrace)... you could pretend you're at an expensive cafe and, a nice view of some greenery might be just the pick-me-up you need!

  3. LuxLiving Says:

    miclason beat me to the same idea!

    Pack a thermos & go to the park, get a picnic table and enjoy time writing out some new goals, plans and purposes. Have fun!

    As Momma used to say "Pretty is as pretty does".

  4. Broken Arrow Says:

    As a guy, I find this very interesting... but understandable. I think it's OK to want to feel pretty with a nice dress and all. I guess I'm just wondering how that will impact your budget? Some of the worst financial decisions that I have later regretted have all been made over something emotional I was feeling at the time. Of course, it's perfectly human to feel down sometimes, but would nice outfits really fix that for you, or will you, like me, come to regret these purchase decisions later as well?

    I like what the others are saying. In the end, the issue is internal and emotional, and it's best if we can find some way to cope with it like that, instead of using external means.

  5. ceejay74 Says:

    Wow, you are really stuck in a vicious cycle where every problem seems caused by another problem and thus there's no way to get started on any of them. I've been reading your last dozen or so posts and they all seem to go like this: I can't be pretty because I don't have money for clothes. I can't get money for clothes because I don't look good and that affects job hunting. I can't eat healthy or exercise because I don't have money for good food or a gym. I can't do free exercising because I don't feel comfortable with my appearance because I'm not fit and I don't have money for pretty clothes. I can't enjoy free activities because enjoyment means being able to go and spend money, but I can't spend money because I'm not bringing enough in.

    Some of the solutions do actually exist outside of the cycle, but it seems like your mental state won't allow you to take advantage of any of these free, immediate (albeit requiring some effort and a good attitude) solutions.

    I wish you luck. I'm not really sure what to tell you to change it, but you're getting a lot of good advice on all your posts that could be implemented immediately without money, new clothes, coffeehouse coffee or already being thin. You just need to somehow tackle the inner voice that is keeping you in this holding pattern.

  6. BuckhornGal Says:

    Ceejay74 has hit the nail on the head. When the time is right (perhaps today?) you can go ahead and take one baby step to get your power and self confidence back. Just one little step. And then look around and see that that was a safe baby step. Then you can try another one when you are ready. You can do it!

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