This thought popped into my head, and I thought I would roll with it...
I know pretty people have problems, too. And yet, as probably incorrect as it seems, I really feel like if my appearance was more of how I looked about 5 years ago, I think I would feel a bit stronger about the whole situation. I would be able to wear my cute skirts and funky (meaning hip!) shoes, have an iced coffee, and not trip about being on a tight budget.
I think the appearance issue is just another added stressor---not to mention that your appearance does impact your hiring ability (for the part-time jobs I am looking into). And my appearance or health makes certain jobs (one where I am on my feet constantly), a bit more tiring than for an average and normal person.
Yeah, there is this little naive and dreamer part of me that really feels like if I were able to wear the clothes I want (not expensive ones, just ones in my style preference), and be able to take the casual kind of strolls I like, then I would be able to be a bit less stressed about the whole situation. Right now, I am in clothes I don't really like cause they make me look kind of crappy, and then that in turn affects how people view me, and I am feeling uncomfortable often when I try to go for the little strolls.
Right now I would love to be able to wear a pretty dress, sit in a cafe, and be able to just relax and write out my cares and thoughts......
I Just want to be pretty
September 23rd, 2009 at 05:47 pm
September 23rd, 2009 at 05:52 pm 1253724729
Can you accessorize with any items you already have? Sometimes a splash of color can spruce up a tired outfit. Trust me, I was just thinking about my own wardrobe - I'm 40 - (YIKES) and I am somewhere past cute little leggins and tunics, but not quite into the elastic waistband polyester pants and appliqued shirts.
September 23rd, 2009 at 06:12 pm 1253725928
Having said that, it is true, you project the way you feel... hmmmm... can you pack some home made coffee with a bit of cinnamon and go drink it someplace pretty? (like a park or terrace)... you could pretend you're at an expensive cafe and, a nice view of some greenery might be just the pick-me-up you need!
September 23rd, 2009 at 06:37 pm 1253727477
Pack a thermos & go to the park, get a picnic table and enjoy time writing out some new goals, plans and purposes. Have fun!
As Momma used to say "Pretty is as pretty does".
September 23rd, 2009 at 06:43 pm 1253727815
I like what the others are saying. In the end, the issue is internal and emotional, and it's best if we can find some way to cope with it like that, instead of using external means.
September 23rd, 2009 at 06:54 pm 1253728464
Some of the solutions do actually exist outside of the cycle, but it seems like your mental state won't allow you to take advantage of any of these free, immediate (albeit requiring some effort and a good attitude) solutions.
I wish you luck. I'm not really sure what to tell you to change it, but you're getting a lot of good advice on all your posts that could be implemented immediately without money, new clothes, coffeehouse coffee or already being thin. You just need to somehow tackle the inner voice that is keeping you in this holding pattern.
September 23rd, 2009 at 07:39 pm 1253731179